My First Mother's Day

Happy belated Mother’s Day to all the amazing moms! My first Mother’s Day was filled with joy as we celebrated at the beach. Surrounded by family, I cherished the blessings of motherhood. Yet, I also faced the sobering reality of my health, leading me

Happy belated Mother’s Day to all the incredible moms out there! This past weekend was particularly special for me as I celebrated my first Mother’s Day. It was a time filled with joy, family, and some bittersweet realizations. Here’s a glimpse into my weekend and the emotions it stirred.

A Beach Getaway

To celebrate, my family and I headed to the beach. Along with my husband Ian, our baby, and our wonderful nurse Marcy, we enjoyed a delightful weekend. We cooked meals together, went shopping, watched TV, and simply relaxed. The beach provided the perfect setting for us to unwind and cherish these special moments. It was everything I could have asked for on my first Mother’s Day.

The Joy of Motherhood

Being a mother for the first time brought indescribable joy. Holding my baby and celebrating this milestone surrounded by loved ones was a dream come true. This experience reminded me of the blessings of motherhood and how grateful I am for my family. It was a key bucket list moment I had always imagined, and it did not disappoint.

Health Realities and Reflections

Amidst all the happiness, there was also a moment of sobering reflection. As I anticipate an upcoming kidney transplant, I have to face the reality of living with a compromised immune system due to immunosuppressants. Realizing that extensive travel to places like Africa and Mexico might expose me to health risks was heartbreaking. It meant that many of my travel dreams might have to be reconsidered.

Redefining Dreams and Priorities

While this realization was tough, it brought clarity about what truly matters. My health and well-being are now my top priorities so that I can continue to be there for my family. Although I may need to revise my bucket list, I look forward to finding joy in experiences that are safe and manageable. My dream destinations may change, but the essence of those dreams remains.

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The Challenge of "How Are You Feeling?"

Living with chronic illness turns “How are you feeling?” into a complex question. Chronic pain, low energy, and emotional grief make it difficult to give a simple, positive answer, but I’m learning how.

Living with chronic illness transforms everyday questions into complex emotional and physical challenges. One simple query, “How are you feeling?” often becomes the hardest to answer accurately.

The Difficulty of Explaining Pain

When people ask, “How are you feeling?” it’s difficult to respond concisely. My days are marked by chronic stomach pain, low energy, and the struggle to perform basic tasks. Some days are better, but many feel overwhelmingly worse, making short and positive answers a struggle.

The Emotional Burden

This question also carries a heavy emotional weight. I grieve for my former healthy self, whom I took for granted. Expressing this loss succinctly to others is a challenge in itself.

Balancing Honesty and Empathy

While I strive to be honest about my condition, I also try to avoid burdening others with the full weight of my struggles. I often say, “Today is tough, but I’m managing,” which allows me to be truthful without overwhelming the person asking. This response feels honest yet considerate, providing a middle ground that respects both my reality and the inquirer’s concern.

But overall, I’m doing okay.

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Celebrating Dad's 69th Birthday

We celebrated my dad’s 69th birthday with a lively dance party, reflecting on the profound nature of love. I felt deep gratitude for my parents’ unwavering support and the privilege of experiencing such strong, enduring love that sustains us through life.

Today was a truly special day as we celebrated my dad’s 69th birthday. The joyous occasion was marked with a lively midday dance party on my parents’ deck, featuring our little bundle of joy, Barney. It was more than just a celebration of another year of life; it was a celebration of love, family, and the deep connections that sustain us.

The Privilege of Deep Love

As the festivities unfolded, I had an epiphany about the profound nature of love. It’s an incredible privilege to be loved so deeply and to reciprocate that love with equal fervor. Today, my thoughts are especially centered on the love parents have for their children, and vice versa. I felt an overwhelming sense of gratitude for my parents and their unwavering support throughout my life, particularly during the most challenging times of getting sick.

Reflecting on Parental Love

Looking back, I realize how much my parents have been through with me. They’ve endured immense struggles and celebrated monumental victories alongside me. Their love has been a guiding force, providing strength and solace. The intensity of this love is something truly remarkable, and I feel incredibly fortunate to experience it.

The Significance of Expanding Our Hearts

When we allow our hearts to expand and embrace love fully, we open ourselves to one of life’s greatest rewards. In feeling the love emanating from others and letting it permeate our own hearts, we discover an essential aspect of what makes life worth living. This exchange of love becomes a cornerstone of our existence, offering both comfort and purpose.

As the night approaches, I encourage you all to treasure the love in your life. Appreciate the relationships that nurture and sustain you, and always remember the immense privilege of loving and being loved. Have a wonderful night filled with warmth and gratitude.

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